"Handle them carefully, for words have more power than atom bombs." - This quote by Pearl Strachan Hurd illustrates the message perfectly. Words are constantly impacting our reality and the way we experience life.
It's nothing new. We know how much words influence our emotions. Things like “I'm pregnant”, “Sorry, we need to cut costs”, “It's a girl”, “Marry me” and so on, can make us cry or jump with excitement. But further than that, there are many different experiments suggesting that positive and negative affirmations can alter water molecules, the growth of plants and even the look of rice – look it up, these studies are mind blowing.
But let's talk about the human experience, the less obvious words and specifically the ones we say to ourselves. Within the words we speak is an emotional potency. Each word that we use can have a colossal impact. Simply put, language holds massive power to manifest change, whether it’s good or bad. It's easy to notice the consequences of what other people say. But what about the ones we say to ourselves?
I haven't conducted a scientific study myself but I can say from my experience working with people: The moment a person realises how much their words affect their success and start refining their tone and attitude, they experience a huge shift. Being in the personal development industry for over 10 years and talking to hundreds of people on the phone, I know a thing or two about communication. It's impressive: the people who are always saying “This is not for me”, “I can't do this”, “I'm bad at this, that and the other” are the ones who take less action to create improvement.
There is no secret to this. We are the creators of our reality, simple as that. Start saying “If other people can, so can I”, “I've got this” or “I can learn anything” and see what happens for yourself. Change your self-talk and watch how you feel and act.
This is true for any area of life. Pay attention to the way you think and talk about relationships. Career. Money. Body image! Obviously action is also key. But chances are if you are always saying money is bad and are constantly complaining about the lack of it, you probably experience inconsistent action towards changes in your life that would probably result in a better relationship with your finances.
The positive use of word is something we can practice. I've become much better at it along the years. It takes wanting to change. Apart from observing yourself and making changes accordingly, you can embark on a journey of personal development like I did. There are many resources on the internet (including the courses inside my business I must add) – and I have a free gift for you at the end of your reading.
Before I conclude, here are some basics steps to take to start thinking and saying more positive things about yourself and your life:
Listen to what you are saying to yourself – Take notice of the way you communicate internally. Is it positive or negative? Writing it down can also be a good idea.
Challenge your own behaviour – Is there any actual evidence for what you are saying? And even if there is, how would you respond to a friend who is saying the same thing about themselves? Be kind! And ask: Is there anything I can do to change that? (There always is!)
Start making changes – As soon as you say something negative out of habit, immediately replace your phrase with something more positive. For example: Replace “I'm so fat these days” with “What can I do today to improve my health?”. Or “I wish I was rich” with “Is there any alternative to what I'm currently doing to generate income?”. And on and on. Do it for as long as necessary. Success in anything comes from the things we do daily!
Lastly, before the gift, I just would like to say: Choose the words that you speak mindfully because they have the potential of accomplishing nearly anything. And the opposite is also true, so be careful. Just one negative thought or word can seriously affect the way you feel in your day. On the flip side, one positive and encouraging comment can be just enough to increase self-belief and create the sort of energy needed for life's breakthroughs.
The way you speak reflects the person you are and impacts the world around you. It can greatly contribute to your success or lack of it both in business and your personal life. Pay attention and give yourself permission to develop. It will make all the difference.
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